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10 Ways to Survive Traveling with a Baby

Guest Written By: Elle Sikorski 
Instagram: @ellevatehealth 
Blog: www.ellevatehealth.com

So long to the days when your biggest travel worry was whether your bag exceeded the allowable weight limit. As new moms, we’ve got a whole new set of concerns when it comes to traveling. In fact, the thought of going anywhere with your infant is one that can send any parent into a panic. Worried about what to pack, anxious about what the other passengers may think when baby is crying, and most importantly, concerned for the disruption of baby’s schedule are just a few of the many concerns a new mom will have while trip-planning. Call me crazy, but when my son, Benjamin, was just 16 weeks old, he, my husband and I took our first trip to Turks and Caicos. Two weeks later, Benjamin, my husband and I boarded an international flight to Poland for a week-long visit with family —on the way back it was just Ben and I alone. If my husband were able to come, he would have. We both felt that it was important for my family to meet Benjamin at this early age. When it comes to travel, I have done my fair share, however, traveling with a baby was a completely new challenge. It was crazy, memorable and fun! So, if you are a new mom and have been avoiding traveling with your baby, I can assure you that is not the nightmare you imagine it will be. Here’s what I learned about traveling with a baby and what I would like to pass on to other jet-setting mamas. 

1. Roll baby’s clothes when packing.

First, arrange all the clothes by outfit, then get rolling. Rolling saves you a TON of space in the suitcase. I brought one large suitcase for the both of us (and the diaper bag as my carry-on). If you want to be even more organized, purchase fold-up fabric storage boxes to group each item of clothing in. For example, pajamas in one box and onesies, socks and bibs in the other. Once they are rolled and packed in boxes, place into your suitcase. Voila! There you have a more organized space for both yours’ and baby’s clothes. 

2. Pack dark clothes for baby. 

Let’s face it… babies are messy eaters. Whether baby spits up his milk, or more of his pureed carrots end up on his shirt than in his belly, outfit changes happen often. That’s why I like to pack darker clothes. If baby has a minor spill, it will be less visible on dark clothing. 

3. Airbnb > Hotels. 

Pre-baby, my husband and I never really considered renting an apartment or entire home while traveling. We would always just find the best hotel, in the best location, with the intention of spending very little time in our room. Fast forward to today. Airbnb over a hotel any day! We always look for an Airbnb or rented apartment with a washer, dryer and kitchenette. With this added luxury, we are able to enjoy ourselves a little better – and Benjamin too! There’s more space, laundry available (which means packing less clothes), and the option to cook healthy meals. 

4. Bring a travel stroller. 

Although baby wearing is a wonderful option for strolling around the airport, at some point during your vacation, you will need a stroller. Whether you are out exploring and baby needs to lay down, or you’re tired of wearing baby on your chest, a stroller is a must. When traveling with a baby, I highly recommend using a travel stroller system. You could take your everyday stroller, however, it would probably be quite heavy to lug around. A lightweight travel stroller, on the other hand, will have a compact, one-handed fold and is generally easier to stow out of the way in small rooms or restaurants. There are also many travel strollers systems designed to accommodate infants. These strollers are specifically made with car seat insert options, so that parents don’t have to worry about their little one being too small for the stroller itself. 

5. Board early. 

Thankfully, most airlines will allow families with small children to board first. Boarding early will give you a few extra minutes to get your baby comfortable while the plane is empty. You’ll also get first dibs at the overhead compartment that’s directly above your seat. 

6. Find empty seats on the plane. 

If possible, and only after everyone has taken their seats, ask if there are any extra empty seats next to one another. This may seem like a long shot on packed planes, but there’s no harm in asking. You may even get lucky and find an empty bulkhead seat for extra leg room and bassinet space. 

7. Feed during take off & landing. 

During airline travel, it’s completely normal for your baby to become restless at take off and landing. The pressure on a baby’s little ears can be especially harsh during these changes in altitude. Whether you’re nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, feeding them during take off and landing will ensure comfort, easing any added pressure to their precious ears.

8. Bring baby’s favourite toy. 

Bring 1-2 of your baby’s favorite toys to keep them comfortable. The familiarity of a favourite toy when in a rather unfamiliar place can go a long way. For Benjamin, it was his “bearsys.” I brought two in case one happened to get lost during travel.  

9. Don’t bring a pack n’ play. 

Every place I’ve ever traveled to has been able to provide a pack n’ play or a portable cot for baby to sleep in. All it takes is an email or phone call ahead of time to reserve one. Don’t lug one with you if you don’t have to! Even Airbnb’s often have them available (just bring a clean fitted sheet).  

10. Find a local babysitter. 

I obviously didn’t need to do this during my trip to Poland, but it’s something my husband and I have done on other trips we’ve taken with Benjamin. Finding a local babysitter can be a great way to get away for a dinner date sans baby — if you’re comfortable with it, that is. So, there you have it. I’m living proof that it’s possible to survive traveling with a baby. I hope these ten tips can help make your next journey with baby a little easier and a lot more fun!

5 Ways to Incite Romance After Baby

Making time for your partner after baby

The arrival of your newest little one is an adjustment for the whole family. Suddenly your old routine gets completely flipped around by a small, sweet, snuggly baby. When it comes to romance, a new baby can actually be a great time for you and your partner to work on ways to incite romance after baby.

Talk About It

You’ve heard it before, but communication truly is key in relationships. Before baby comes, have the discussion with your partner about how you want to continue making time for them post-baby. Brainstorm some ideas that will work for you, and think through ways you can both try them when the baby gets here. If that ship has already sailed, you can still bring it up to your partner. Every couple is different, and so are solutions for finding time for romance after baby arrives.

You can bridge the conversation with things like, “how can we spend some more time romantic together?” and “let’s find a way to incorporate romance again.”

Avoid phrases like “I need you to give me more attention” or “why aren’t we romantic anymore?”. These can incite feelings of guilt and resentment in your partner. Rest assured that every couple has their period of adjustment to find new expressions of romance after baby that work for them.

Stick to the Plan

If you and your partner make plans to spend time together, at times it is going to be tempting to cancel. Things come up, it’s hard to leave the house and making time for each other takes more work than it used to. However, you need follow through, and show each other that spending quality time is important. Your relationship and well-being will benefit from the investment.

Short and Sweet

In the first few months and weeks, romance after baby can be extremely hard to achieve. Plan activities that take you and your partner out of the house for small increments of time. Taking the baby for a walk in the stroller during her nap time is a great way to check in and chat with your spouse. Enjoying a cup of coffee or a glass of wine is also a great way to reconnect without being away for too long. Take up your relatives on the offer to babysit, or hire a sitter for an hour and half. Romance after baby doesn’t have to mean dinner and a long movie.

5 Minutes a Day

Try incorporating the 5 minutes a day rule. For just 5 minutes each day, sit down and check in with your partner. Try to be completely present and listen when they speak. Use this time to speak up about any thing that’s on your mind, or even to plan your next date night. Try to do this when the baby is asleep so your attention isn’t diverted. Everyone can fit in 5 minutes of romance after baby.

Small Gestures

Is there a little something that you did for your partner pre-baby that you can bring back now? They will appreciate the thoughtfulness and reminder of the love you strongly share. Write a post-it note, give a five minute shoulder massage, cook dinner, call for no reason. It’s the little things that truly count when it comes to romance after baby.

Why Is It Important To Enforce Self Care For Moms?

Why is it important to enforce self care for moms?

Self care for moms is often too easily overlooked. As a caregiver, it can be hard to feel justified about carving out space to nurture your own needs and wants. How can you afford to set time aside between juggling the schedules and responsibilities of the rest of your family and possibly a career on top of everything? While it may seem virtually impossible that self care for moms could take precedence, enforcing that time for yourself is healthy. Not only does it allow you to have a break, but it allows you to perform everyday tasks more efficiently. Without time to relax, you are more prone to become frustrated and lose energy. By default, by restoring your energy levels, you are not only doing yourself a favor, but you are helping out your whole family. After spending time alone, you will feel rejuvenated, be able to improve your concentration and unwind. Self care for moms is essential.

How to enforce self care for moms?

Our advice for new moms is not to put off self care, but to enforce it early on. This early integration sets a standard of routine and normalcy that can be expected by you and your family. Ultimately “mommy-time” becomes second nature to all. Of all the benefits associated with prioritizing self care for moms, once the practice becomes a habit, you will start to notice improvements in how you experience those little moments that might otherwise feel stressful or difficult.

Our first piece of advice for new moms is to eliminate or reduce unnecessary tasks. Cutting down the amount of time spent on daily activities can be very beneficial. For example, making a list of what needs to be done during the week and what on that list can be outsourced such as using an app for grocery shopping, or asking for help with cooking, cleaning or laundry can contribute to more valuable personal time. Being practical and reasonable about your time is just as important. Perfectionism does not exist, and rather than feeling obliged to keep the house spotless or prepare an elaborate family meal nightly, give yourself the benefit of using moderation to allow yourself more free time.

Once you have eliminated a few things from your day, it is time to schedule in self care. Don’t just think about self care, write specific times and activities down in your planner. This may seem unnecessary, but if you decide when to enforce time for yourself, it is much more likely to happen. Additionally, if you want to work with a personal trainer or spend time with a friend, schedule it in advance. By looping in another person, you create accountability for self care. You can also partner with another mother and plan your self care time together. Instead of a workout buddy, find a “self care buddy.”

What are the benefits of self care for moms?

Some benefits of self care for moms include stress release, increased clarity of thoughts and improved emotional health. These benefits lead to healthier relationships amongst your family, and by allowing your physical body to relax, you can prevent chronic stress and improve your quality of sleep. In addition, you will find yourself feeling less irritable, meaning you will be able to more thoroughly enjoy time spent with your kids.

By enforcing time for yourself, you start to build a support system. It is important for your kids to interact with a variety of different people. Try leaving the kids with their dad or a grandparent when possible while you enjoy a spa day with your girlfriends or hide away with a good book. This creates variability in your children’s lives. Self care for moms is a win-win; Your kids are happier because their momma is more joyful and present, and you are happier because you are giving yourself the gift of balance.

Next time you begin to feel guilty or uncertain about carving time for your own self care, remember that everyone benefits: you, your partner and your kids. Our best advice for new moms is to be aware that your needs are intertwined with your children’s. You can’t fully care for another unless you care for yourself. Be an example for your family and display self care.

Mommy Appreciation Sundays Now Back With Mommy and Baby Freebies!

If you thought we were done celebrating mamas, think again. Mommy Appreciation Sundays are back at 10 to 12 Baby Lounge with mommy and baby freebies and more to come. We had so much fun with the campaign over the summer, growing our community of mommies, and got such rewarding feedback that we just can’t let it go.

A quick recap…

If you missed our first round of Mommy Appreciation Sundays or need a quick reminder of what it is, we’re happy to fill you in!

Mommies work a never-ending job without getting paid, and rarely even get acknowledged for much of what they do. They ask for almost nothing in return, prioritizing others’ needs before their own. 10 to 12 is here to give those moms a little extra attention and TLC, just to let them know how valued and appreciated they really are. We disagree with having only one day a year to truly celebrate these superwomen; we’re doing it every month!

What it includes

How exactly do we celebrate Mommy Appreciation Sundays, you ask? For starters, our social medias will be more centered around mommies, including inspirational quotes, images, and stories. We will be providing tips for new and veteran mommies alike. We want 10 to 12 Baby Lounge to feel like a friend, a retreat, a place that makes mommies feel extra special, because they are. Our goal is to spread that message throughout our Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, blog posts, etc.

In addition, similar to our previous Mommy Appreciation Sundays campaign, we will be doing special giveaways, because mommy and baby freebies are a wonderfully unexpected treat, especially when they’re made from the world’s softest cashmere! Upon visiting 10 to 12’s website, you will be greeted with a pop-up. It gives you the opportunity to enter your email so you can receive a special $25 gift card that will be delivered to your inbox immediately. This gift card can be used on any 10 to 12 Baby Lounge products, with the exception of our new Llama and Cacti plush toys. However, we are thrilled to announce our new fall line that includes multiple new gift sets, complete with the very cutest baby accessories from cashmere baby shoes to swaddle blanket sets. Our Happy Mommy, Happy Me cashmere gift set is a favorite amongst breastfeeding mommies, and it is sure to reign you the ultimate baby shower gift bearer amongst your friends.

But wait…there’s more. If you provide your email address to receive the $25 gift card to apply toward your next purchase, you will automatically opt-in to a raffle to win cashmere mommy and baby freebies during that month. On the first Sunday of each month, beginning in September, we will select a winner, in celebration of Mommy Appreciation Sundays. The raffle prize will change each month, but for the month of September, it will be one of our Stretch Me swaddle blankets, usually priced at $158! Spread the word to your new mommy friends! No purchase is required to win*. We only strive to give back to our community of mommies t0 help them feel more supported.

Why is this so important to us?

As a brand that has experienced mothers on the team, we understand the needs and feelings that are common amongst moms. Mommy Appreciation Sundays is not only about showing mommy appreciation by giving them special deals – it’s about creating a community of mommies who can be there for each other. As moms, we can celebrate each other’s victories, hold each other up during the tough parts, and encourage each other on our journeys as mothers. Thats why we loved sharing our live event so much this past summer; moms were able to make connections with each other, mommy bloggers, mom influencers, our non-profit partner Baby2Baby and press who happen to be mothers themselves. We hope to continue to share rewarding experiences and treats with our growing community of mommies, and welcome new ideas in the comments below! Stay tuned for more details on that in the coming months as Mommy Appreciation Sundays continues to evolve.

In the meantime, we hope you take advantage of the opportunities for mommy and baby freebies this fall by entering into our monthly drawings along with your mommy pals, and we hope we can be a place of support and love through #MOMMYAPPRECIATIONSUNDAYS.

#MommyAppreciationSunday!

“Mothers deserve more love & recognition than just one Mother’s Day.”
This Sunday between 10am and 12pm, we're giving away 3 FREE 'Cashmere Baby Sets' with code MOMMYAPPRECIATION at checkout! If you're not one of the lucky 3, we're still offering 40% off ALL cashmere baby and mommy gifts all day on Sunday!

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